Yours, Mine, and Ours

Posted on Monday, August 17, 2015

As modern women we like to think of ourselves as bold and assertive and not shy to voice our opinions. But there’s one subject it seems, that we dread talking about – yes, the uncomfortable “money” issue.

If there’s one thing that’s a relationship breaker this has got be it. Studies have found that over 90% of relationships have ended because couples simply couldn’t agree on how to spend their money. I mean lets face it; no one likes those nasty surprises from the bank at the end of the month because of a careless, impulsive partner.

Luckily ladies, you can always deal with this thorny issue before it becomes a sore point in your relationships.

Find a Suitable Time:
If anything, you should always find a suitable time to talk about the issues that are worrying you. This should ideally be a time where neither of you will feel defensive nor attacked! Avoid all past issues and focus on the here and now.

Give a Little to Get a Little:
If he doesn’t completely get you and your money concerns. This is the perfect time to voice your concerns and fears. Tell him what you feel and how you best see the situation. If it’s only a temporary situation let it be known and remember, by being as calm as possible your partner will find it easier to confide in you.  

Capitalise on your strengths
Explain to your partner that managing a budget is tough for most people & explain that you’ve been able to master the art. Offer to take on your joint finances if your relationship is ready for it. If he agrees, remember to be transparent with him. You don’t want him to feel out of control of his own finances.

The Third Party:
If all else fails and your partner’s spending sprees are getting you into a financial tangle then it’s time to call in the professionals! There are a number of financial advisers that specialise in this area. Make sure the person is someone you can trust and someone who you both feel comfortable with. 

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