Dating mistakes to avoid

Posted on Monday, August 17, 2015

Whether you are 25 or 45 years old, dating is difficult. A disastrous first date or a dream date that never calls. The guy that stood you up twice or the guy that is stalking you on Facebook. As wonderful as it can be, dating is not easy and you need to have your wits about you if you want to emerge unscathed and even victorious. Here are some words of dating wisdom.

Take it slowly
Head over heels in love and convinced he is the one for you? Maybe not. Take the time you need to really get to know him before you start booking wedding venues. Take things slowly and sensibly and you will save yourself a lot of heartache.

Don't look for perfection
There is no such thing as the perfect man, just as there is no such thing as the perfect woman. Be realistic about the men you date that knight in shining armour only exists in fairy tales.

Watch out for warning signs
Does he always forget to call? Was he rude to the waitress or just plain drunk? Ignore those red flags and you will pay the price later.

Be honest
The rules are simple. Do not pretend to be anything that you are not and be honest about how you feel. Remember that a lasting relationship is not built on a foundation of half-truths and deception.

Love takes time
Accept that finding the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with is going to take time. Never compromise and never settle for anything less than the best. Relax, enjoy being single and most important of all enjoy dating!

Be realistic
If it is not going to work, it is not going to work. Don't go on a second or third date with a man that you don't like or are not attracted to. And never date a man that you would not introduce to friends or family.

Final words
If we have any final words of advice they are these: Do not expect a man or a relationship to make you happy. Love and affection will complete you but they will not make you into the person that you want to be.  

First date do's and don'ts

  • Don't talk too much about your ex or past relationships
  • Mind your manners and switch off your cell phone
  • Don't expect him to foot the bill
  • Arrive on time
  • Stick to a limit of two drinks
  • Dress carefully: look good but save those 8-inch heels for another day
  • Be polite and be interested: talk about more than just yourself!

"Do not just look at your boyfriend as just a boyfriend. Look at him as a friend, too."
Vanessa Hudgens

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