The delicate balance: redefining what ‘having it all’ means
Can women have it all? Yes. And no. OK, we admit it. This is a loaded question because really, what does ‘having it all’ actually mean? This phrase has typically referred to career women who are juggling their work responsibilities and taking care of their families. But because women are all so uniquely different, they can’t be boxed into singular roles like ‘family woman’ or ‘career girl’.
These terms are often intended to be mutually exclusive; you can be one or the other, but not both. However, we know this to definitely not be true. We know that women do fulfil multiple roles, and the most important definitions they have are the ones they give themselves, rather than what others say they are or should be. Having it all should be more about how you feel about what you do, have done and are going to do in the future, and less about fitting into a narrow definition of ‘the delicate balance’.
Sure, there will be times when you don’t feel balanced. There will be times when one aspect of your life needs more focus than others, and that’s OK – to be fit enough to run the Comrades, you need to put in hours upon hours of training and hard work which may mean having to miss out on other social activities. But that’s fine, because in the end, it will be worth it.
Having goals is healthy, but achieving balance is not some unattainable dream that you constantly need to strive for. The reality is that it is possible to have it all and maintain a balance, because having it all depends on how you define it on your own terms. To one woman, it might be the family and work balance, while to another, it could be work and studies, and yet to another, it may be about making enough time for her beloved hobbies. It is about prioritising what is important to you and how this shapes the choices you make.
Why do we need to have balance?
We all want balance in our lives; too much time spent at work and we miss out on important family events. Too much time spent with others, and we notice we’re sorely lacking precious me-time. It’s natural to want balance. This rings particularly true when it comes to work-life balance. If you have a healthy balance between work and your personal life, you can be more present when spending time with your loved ones and feel more relaxed and comfortable with yourself. And it also benefits your work – if you’re less stressed, you can perform at your best.
At 1st for Women, we think that it’s more important to reshape the conversation and redefine what balance is and what having it all means on your own terms. It’s impossible to balance every aspect of your life all the time in the traditional sense – there are not enough hours in the day! But what can go a long way to maintaining a sense of balance is to recognise what areas of our lives need a little extra care and working on doing more of the things that make us happy.
Putting yourself first
We know that, as a woman, you do so much for so many and seldom put yourself first. But now is the time to start recognising and celebrating you, giving yourself the praise you deserve. When you acknowledge what you’ve done, you are building the confidence to take on new challenges and opportunities that come your way, helping you be the best version of yourself, which inevitably, will bring you balance. And you know what? If you don’t feel balanced, that’s fine too, as long as you are happy with where you are and what you’re doing.
At 1st for Women, we aim to provide the support that women need so that they have the confidence to do what they need to do. Whether it’s our Guardian Angels Lifestyle Assistance that gives you that extra pair of hands you’ve always wanted, or comprehensive household contents insurance that keeps your precious valuables safe, we offer a tailor-made insurance solution for women. If you’re looking for house contents cover and the best building insurance for women, call us on 0861 91 77 73.
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