Are you a good friend?
Are you a good friend?
August 17, 2015By First For Women
Through good times and bad, we all need a girlfriend who understands the trials and tribulations and successes and celebrations that are uniquely women.
Some friendships last only while the environment allows it but some friends will always be a part of our lives and are incredibly difficult to replace. Make sure you’re a good person to be friends with. Here are a couple of qualities we felt important in a friendship.
Be loyal: A true friend will never talk about a friend behind her back and will defend her against unfriendly gossip and rumours.
Be dependable: Don’t make promises you can’t keep. If you agree to meet then don’t cancel at the last minute. If you say you will do something, be sure to do it.
Be a good listener: A good listener is genuinely interested in what the other person has to say. A good listener also knows that they don’t always have to give advice, sometimes people just need to talk things out.
Don’t monopolise conversations: If you are always the one doing the talking it is time to shut up and listen. A good rule of thumb is to talk as much as you listen.
Make time: Whether it is an SMS or short e-mail, stay in touch with your friends. Be sure to organise regular get-togethers, even if it is just for a quick cup of coffee.
Be supportive: Mom in hospital or relationship blues? If your friend is facing a crisis you need to be there for her.
Communicate: As with all relationships, communication is essential. If your friend does something that irritates you, for example, you need to be able to talk about it!
Forgive: If you want to develop long lasting friendships you are going to have to be forgiving. And never hold grudges. They will slowly destroy your friendship.
Be honest: A good friend has to be honest but not brutal. If her new hairstyle is a shocker you have to tell her, but do it kindly!
Have fun together: Friendship is not only about support, it is also about going out and having a good time together. Whether you get together for lunch or a night out you need to be able to have fun together.
